The easiest way to use the object method is to setup the player using js first then add the embed plugin. If you already tried the embed plugin please post your current object config.
The devs mention it on the link you posted near the bottom of the page.
"TIP: if you want to provide complex configurations for the OBJECT/EMBED tags, you shouldn't bother making them manually. You'll almost certainly become frustrated. The trick is to use our embedding plugin for that. Just configure Flowplayer any way you like and let the embed plugin do the hard work of generating the OBJECT code so you don't have to "get your hands dirty"."
The devs mention it on the link you posted near the bottom of the page.
"TIP: if you want to provide complex configurations for the OBJECT/EMBED tags, you shouldn't bother making them manually. You'll almost certainly become frustrated. The trick is to use our embedding plugin for that. Just configure Flowplayer any way you like and let the embed plugin do the hard work of generating the OBJECT code so you don't have to "get your hands dirty"."